Welcome to Blogmas Day 3! Today, we are going to talk about what I do to achieve all of my New Year’s Resolutions! I have been setting New Year’s Resolutions for six years now (!!!?!), and while I haven’t done The Best™ at achieving all of them, I think I have a pretty good idea on how to actually achieve my New Years Resolutions and today, I’m going to be talking about what I’ve learned!
Step 1: Set Good Goals. We’ve all heard the tips about setting good goals: make them specific, break them down, etcetera. But what do they mean exactly? Here is what I think about when I set New Year’s Resolutions:
- What do I want to change in my life? For example, next year, I want to start waking up before 7:30am. I don’t do that normally, but I want to in 2020! I like listing out all of the things I want to change in my life, however large or small it is. Goals of mine have ranged from “drink more tea” to “practice intermittent fasting,” but they are all things that I want to change in my life in the new year.
- What is the most reasonable way of accomplishing this goal? Or, how much of this goal will I need to do to feel accomplished? For instance, I set the benchmark for my resolution of waking up early at 7:30, because that is a reasonable time to wake up. Although I would like to wake up earlier, setting my goal to be “wake up at 5am” is not going to be sustainable (for me at least) and will more likely result in my not accomplishing this goal.
When I set the goal lower than I want, then being able to check the resolution off my list will be a lot easier! While that might mean I won’t be able to exactly accomplish something I want to change in my life, it is a small step in the right direction, which is more than I was at before!
- How can I break this goal down to make it achievable? One of my goals for 2020 is to start living a more nontoxic lifestyle. Since I’m not currently consciously living a nontoxic life, any step will be more than I’m currently doing. One of the first steps I want to take is to research which products that are the most toxic and begin working on getting those switched out.
Step 2: Get Started On Your Goals Early It takes three weeks to begin establishing a habit, and two months for it to become ingrained in your life. Getting started with your goals a couple days (or even weeks!) before the New Year hits allows you to test out the feasibility of your goals before the real pressure hits.
Needing to do a 180-degree turn-around on January 1st is a lot, and if I don’t already have a plan to implement a goal into my life, then the chances of my accomplishing that goal is that much lower. The easier I make my goals and resolutions on myself January 1st, the easier keeping these habits in my life are going to be.
Step 3: Give Yourself Some Grace Even on the beset days, you mess up. Sometimes you take a step forward but then two steps back. Sometimes you sleep through your alarm. Sometimes, the only option you have is to eat before 9am, or use the not-non-toxic shampoo. That doesn’t mean failure! Get back up and try again.
So often, we aim for perfection, but the whole point of New Year’s Resolutions is not perfection. It’s about trying, and becoming a better person in the end. If you mess up one day, just try again the next! It’s not the end of the world: you are still taking steps to make yourself a better person. And in the end, that’s what matters, isn’t it?